Tania Kettle

So it's been brought to my attention, that I do not do enough for peeps with Mental Health.

Right.

Lets you and I have a tutu about this:

1) Within the last few days, I had someone talking about how broken they were, and they were finding it hard to cope.

For the last six months, I have been telling them they are making crap choices, and that these choices will harm them.

When I offered solutions this weekend, they were not interested.

2) The person with Mental Health issues pre this weekend, physically said she wanted to kill herself.

I gave her options at the time for help, THEN spoke to another person, so other people were also aware.  

She did not take the help, and refuses to speak to me now because, I caused her problems by speaking to someone else about her wanting to kill herself, and therefore made her life more difficult.

3) The person pre these last two refused to believe me when I said their man had Mental Health issues.

I heard, It's ok, I can fix him, so many times I wanted to bang my head against a brick wall until my brains fell out.

4) The person before these last three, blindsided me so badly and lied in a situation, that we had a falling out for over 18 months.

Nothing got fixed then and is still, as I am writing this, not fixed.

But I keep an eye out.

And the list goes on and on and on and on.

Because do you really want to know about the guy who turned up on my doorstep, on the off chance that I was home...and he'd already bought the rope to hang himself.

And he was on the way to his tree.

So while you're standing there banging on me about how I'm not doing my part, I need you to understand exactly where I'm coming from:

I will give advice and offer immediate support, but,

I will not own your choices, nor will I consistently stand there and listen while you do fuck all to help yourself.

This is your life.

Own it.

Kissy hugs

T (she/her) and Spirit

xx

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